I hate it when I guess wrong at what is being implied when someone says something to me. It can be as innocuous as not knowing the antecedent to the pronoun when someone asks, "What do you think about them?" It can also go like the discussion below that may or may not sound familiar.
Person 1: "I like ice cream cones, but I occasionally feel pressured to get nuts on mine because the person behind the counter always recommends it. I don't usually put nuts on it, but I feel bad about it when I tell him no thanks."
Person 2: "I feel bad for you. In my ice cream shop no one is ever pressured to add anything to their cones."
Me: "So, what are you trying to say? Are you saying your ice cream shop is better?"
Person 2: "No, I just feel for person 1."
Me: (sheepishly) "Oh."
Another situation occurred yesterday and even though it is related to the topic, it was non-verbal confusion.
Last night our church had an award ceremony for the mid-week kids' programs. It was announced during the service that Mrs Dust will be stepping down from teaching one of the classes. Around that time another woman in the church whom we know rather well because she was our buyer's agent for our house looked back in my direction with an expression that appeared to request a response. I am still not sure if she was looking at me or someone behind me. I have already made the mistake of assuming that a person is looking at me when they were waving or making faces, so I decided it would be better in this situation to appear a snob and not respond than appear the idiot and find out she was looking at the kids behind me.
There has to be an easier way.
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What are you saying here?
This seems to be two different thoughts:
The ice cream and the church. I didn't know our church opened an ice cream shop. Is it part of the new coffee shop expansion. Is the scooper urging the patrons to take nuts as an offering of praise to the vanilla. If only we had the freedom of 31 flavors.
Clearing just told me...what...I can't say that...you tell him.
When she looked back at you to get a response...I think it would have been funny if you gave her "the bird."
Is that a flavor? (I'm being sarcastic here, since I don't want someone to get the wrong implication from what I say.)
Yes, it's hot, flavored by Frank's Red Hot. Darwin would probably enjoy the bird flavored ice cream. He'll eat anything.
forrest, clearing, you are definately a troublemaker. I have a bit of mischief in me also. When it comes out, everyone is surprised because everyone thinks I am sweet and innocent. I like to shock people sometimes.
The lady in question asked me after the awards if I was leaving. I said I was leaving Stars not the church. She was looking back at Dust to see if we were leaving the church.
Two things":
1. It is amazing how we as humans jump to conclusions that are more prone to be worst-case scenerios. (this is in response to golden's comment)
2. I think your dialog example was a perfect recap of the "heated discussion" on Golden's post the other day!!! =D
BTW, let me ask if it would have really made that much difference to you if that anonymous comment had been from someone else? Your tone seemed to soften once it was no longer anonymous...just curious as to why...
one more thing...it seems I guessed right about Forrest and Clearing--and I don't even know you...LOL!
Quite frankly, people are more willing to post inflamatory stuff when they think they are anonymous.
The anonymous post could easily be read like "I am sorry you have these problems because you are not like me" when the context of who is saying it is removed. This is magnified because empathy and sarcasm tend to appear the same online and sometimes a person means to be empathetic but subconsciously is being sarcastic.
Golden,
you need an outlet, a voice like me to say the things that forrest does not want to be responsible for. Who is your anti-superman, your anti-golensunrise?
Golden,
Please ignore Clearing, I have no clue who this guy is and I think he is trying to get you in trouble and me in trouble.
Don't worry about it guys...at least you have a name for your trouble maker...lol! However, I made enough trouble by posting anonymously, when I was trying to be polite and not post too many times...but ya'll cured me of that by now!!!
Let's just say that I will usually post as the "I" personality (fun/people-person) and not the "D" personality (from DISC). And you DO NOT want to be in my office today...the big "D" is out to resolve a work-induced-personal crisis! =D
Birds!!!! I love 'em... I love to flip 'em (on the grill) There's nothing like a good piece of yardbird - Buffalo sauce - teriyaki - fried - livers - especially "Balut" that delicacy of
A duck egg embryo still in the shell and eaten like an apple. I also have the problem of projecting my mind-reading capabilities on people aka: "why did they look at
Me like that? Are they mad - what can I do to help them, when time and time again, my mind-reading abilities
prove to be non-existent. I think many of us try to rely
On visual clues from a person's face. Roamer once thought I was in a bad mood for about 6 months, when really it was just my bangs in my eyes. HA!
wind, once again I find myself laughing at you. Thanks for the humor. I LOVE your ability to make paragraphs. It's refreshing!
As to misunderstandings...I thought when I started to read this that dust was going to point out how little t tried to talk about something to Mr and Mrs. dust and said she didn't want to have to play with boxes anymore! (mrs. dust being the one who encouraged our box fiesta, was kind not to point it out, while I laughed and did just the opposite.) BTW, she wasn't talking about "those boxes".
I had a similar thing happen to me last night as well, open mouth--insert foot. Life goes on.
So I'm off to cook the bird! Sweet and Sour tonight!
for the record...you need to make your blogs visually different. This one looks similar to yesterdays so I almost missed that is was new (since you said you weren't posting every day!) I still check just in case...glad I noticed it was new, might have missed a "deep thought from Jack Handy!" I think that's right? Mr. T will have to read the blogs and let me know for sure. Until next time! toodles!
k--now I'm going for a record....but before you get all "smartbutt" on me, Yes I know I could read titles, but I don't usually. It just takes more time and I'm in a hurry and don't know why!?
T needs to get a new CD to listen to...LOL! She already wrote that line once today...on my blog!!! =D
I am sure someone around OPK has some music downloaded that can share with her...
BTW, Golden, that song is from ALABAMA!
And, thanks T, for showing me it's okay to comment more than once in a day on the same post!! What are best friends for--here's to ya, Girlfriend!
I feel compelled to post, whether it makes perfect sense or not, because I think nearly everyone else did. But maybe that's me reading too much into it.
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